“New Year, New Me.” Oh dear, we’ve heard this one before. Instead of looking at the new year as an opportunity to create a new you, why not be the same you but improved? Yeah, you could go on a diet and then eat a cake a day later, or you could purchase a gym membership for the month of January, but none of those decisions will mend your inner self.
Face Your Fears
Are you afraid of heights? Climb a mountain. The only way to overcome a fear is to face it. Your fears are preventing you from going further. There is an experience you have never had awaiting you. It is just a panic attack away. Once you face your fears, and then you face them again and again, you will come to the realization that the fear itself was unfounded.
Challenge yourself every day, if you can. This includes facing your fears, but it can also include starting a new hobby or learning something new. You can learn to play the guitar or figure out how to code. Make goals and attempt to reach them. If you are trying to start a business, treat it like a business and work a 40-hour week. Challenge yourself to do something you have never done before. You will gain experience that will help you in the long run. Life isn’t easy, but the accomplishments of completing a hard task are what make one’s life meaningful. We are all capable of more than what we think we are.
Stop Making Excuses and Just Do It!
We have all done it. We have something we say we are going to do, but it doesn’t happen because we make excuses. If you look for excuses, you will find one. 2019 is about taking ownership of your life. It is time to get out of your comfort zone because everything that is worth achieving requires hard work.
Keep Toxic People and Behavior Back in 2018
Got a friend that brings the worst out of you? Then that person is not a friend. Get rid of them. Do you know of someone who continuously complains about your life, their life, and everyone else’s? Leave that person back in 2018. If you have a hunch that an acquaintance might be toxic, listen to your inner-self. The behaviors of those you surround yourself with impact your character. Keep in mind, you might be a toxic person to someone else who is leaving your ass behind in 2018. With that said, you need to become aware of your toxic behavior and take steps to eliminate it. This could include complaining less about everything in your life. You can also stop playing the victim, as you have control over your life. Take responsibility for your actions.
Be More Optimistic
This leads me to my next tip. Be more optimistic. Even when things are going downhill, fake it till you make it. Dr. Harriet Lerner from Psychology Today explains that pretending to be happy can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Plus, telling your friends only the negative aspects of your life makes you look like a downer.
Invest in Your Health
Yeah, you can set a New Year’s resolution to lose weight, but we all know that is failure waiting to happen. Instead, invest in your health. This is for all aspects of one’s health, both physical and mental. You do not need to go on a fad diet, but you should be mindful of what you eat. Exercising is not just about improving one’s looks, but it can also improve your inner self. As you exercise, endorphins are released to help make you happy and clear your mind from stress. Focus on your mental health, too. This can include incorporating self-care and meditation into your everyday routine.
Go Out and Be Present
You have lived a good hermit life in 2018, now it is time to get out of your shell and experience real life. Plan a weekend getaway. Even the smallest change of scenery will provide a new perspective. Join a group on Meetup with similar interests and learn more about your craft. Go out and help your community by volunteering. When you are out at events and social gatherings, it is easy to find yourself looking at your phone. If you are sitting with your friend enjoying a delicious soup at Panera Bread, do not be rude and look at your phone. Instead, be present. When you feel the vibration of a message, ignore it. Most of the time, it can wait. Be social with the person in front of you. What they have to say is more interesting than a meme. Ask them about themselves. Not only is it an ice breaker, but you two might have something in common.
Spend Less Time on Your Phone
Despite just sitting there and looking at a screen, consistently being on your phone can be stressful. Reading news articles can illustrate a grim reality, but then flipping through the comments section can make you lose all hope in humanity. Consistently being on Instagram may cause an uneasy feeling as you realize that you just lost a few followers. Stalking someone on social media can increase your risk of depression and bring false hopes that you will get to know this person on a more personal level.
And again, and again, and again. Success is not a straight road to a destination with unlimited gas. If you fail at a task, do not give up and assume it is over. Instead, continue until you reach your goal.
Treat Yourself Without Breaking the Bank
2019 is your year. Make it so. Indulge without spending all your money. Got a day with no plans? Do not feel guilty sleeping in. Give yourself a glass of wine and a nice book to read. Enjoy some alone time as a little solitude can boost your self-awareness. Buy yourself a coffee and relax on your computer at a café. Visit the park or a nearby town for some solo adventures. If you can spend a little bit more, go to a spa and get a massage. Don’t worry if you don’t have the money to spend. You can treat yourself to a spa day at home. If you had a busy week, do not feel ashamed binging Netflix and giving yourself a break. Did you recently make an accomplishment? Reward yourself for your hard work.
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